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Children all across the nation have experienced, or are experiencing abuse from their parents. Why? Either the parent is mentally ill, or has had problems growing up themselves and takes out their anger and frustration on their children. It is completely unfair to the child suffering the abuse, for they have done nothing to deserve it. Abuse to a child, both physical and verbal, causes pain and leaves scars that may never go away. The child may grow up to be emotionally insecure, or may behave towards others in abusive manners. They can also cause harm to themselves due to the lack of love and support from the parents. Actions have been taken to try and correct the wrongs that have been made in families with abusive histories. Counseling, family therapy, even child services have stepped in and have taken children away from the parents, seeing as that was the best way to help the child. However, not every family can afford counseling or special doctors to help with the problem, and other families are able to avoid child services, and some parents simply refuse to see the truth; they have a problem. Not every family is being helped, resulting in one more child being forced to endure undeserving abuse. There is a solution to this problem, and it’s simple; if you’re an abusive person, or have experienced abuse as a child and act out towards others, //then don’t have kids.// Unfortunately, people aren’t smart enough to realize this and insist on having children anyway. Another simple solution to ending the abuse is to first understand that you have a //problem//. It’s not your children’s fault, its //you.// Again, people can’t seem to grasp this concept and come to terms with reality. They may not think that there is a problem with the way they decide to parent their children, but when people begin to ask why their child has so many bruises, or if they are constantly saying negative things to the child, then they should be asking themselves, “why do I always act this way around my child?” That’s when the problem can be realized, and the parent can decide to do something about it However, some parents see nothing wrong with what they are doing to their children. They become angry with people who “interfere” and push them away, refusing their help. Some parents would argue that they don’t have a problem and that nothing needs to be “fixed”, but anyone watching would disagree. Unfortunately, some parents are think that way, and that can make it even more difficult to fix the problem. There are so many people out there willing to help; family, friends, counselors, ECT. Even I’m willing to help. I can help right now. The next time your child annoys you, or is crying, in a kind, gentle, understanding voice say, “please stop doing that,” or “what’s wrong sweetheart? Why are you crying?” It’s not hard, trust me. If you have been abused or hurt by your parents, think of how you wished they would act towards you, then do your kids a favor and do the opposite of what your parents did to you. Act like that to your children, and they will be forever grateful.